devon: from LARP attack - see 08jul2005 on my LJ (Default)
devon ([personal profile] devon) wrote in [personal profile] sabinetzin 2014-07-16 04:35 am (UTC)

http://www.xeromag.com/fvbdsm.html is my go-to site for basic and intermediate info. I send newbies there all the time.

Stuff that personally concerns me in fic:
. NOT EVERYONE WEARS BLACK LEATHER!
. tops also have limits and can safeword and/or be traumatised.
. people can forget to use their safewords when they get too involved.
. safewording doesn't make you weak (and the top should tell the bottom that explicitly). practicing safewords ahead of time is a great idea.
. too much dirty talk can take people out of scene headspace, depending on the kind of scene.
. cutting and branding are pretty unusual and extreme practices - the author should examine why they might want something extreme rather than more mainstream bdsm. (which is already kinky enough.)
. simple spankings and bondage can be pretty damned hot.
. sometimes triggering bad memories is not a complete tragedy. (again, why does the author want to write about someone breaking down completely from a trigger? Some people do, and others don't.)

I'm sure there are more, but those are most of the things that I've found very pleasing or very annoying in fanfic.

Thanks for soliciting ideas!
Feel free to engage me in conversation if you like. I have about 16 years' RL experience, both private and public.

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