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[sabinetzin]

Sorry I haven't been around, guys; I've been hanging out almost exclusively at twitter, with some tumblr thrown in.

I stop by now to pose a question: I'm writing a BDSM for fic primer. Any questions/issues anybody would like to see addressed? You won't be named in the post.

Comments

[kate]

You know, I saw this and was all "YES YES YES!" but I can't think of any specific questions. More just that I am excited you're doing this, and having a whole "negotiation" or "consent" area I can point to is going to be brilliant. So I guess, for me, I'm interested in those two areas specifically, but in a general sort of way. (This coming from someone who is not at all kinky IRL, so anything you post is going to be eaten up ravenously.)

I'm also dead curious about subspace as a concept and am really, really intrigued by it, but I don't know how much you want to write about it, so I don't know how useful/appropriate my questions would be. The things I wonder about it are sort of really beginner questions, things I think I know the answer to but would like to have another opinion on. Things like: what kind of things affect whether or not you can get into subspace? How much of it is internal vs external? (Obviously both the setting and your own frame of mind affect the process, but is there a ratio? Is it wildly divergent from one person to the next? (Presumably, but still. Looking for validation.)) Any recs for good descriptions of subspace and/or getting in and out of it?

I'm also curious about discovery of enjoying subbing and motivations for wanting to sub (or is it not a choice like that - is it just a part of who you are?). Like I said - complete noob about this stuff, so I hope that's not actually offensive. I apologize if it is (I have half a mind that it is; the couple friends that I have that are subby seem very much like it is simply a part of who they are, but speaking as someone who conscientiously chose to be queer, I never assume on these points).

Uh, hi. So apparently I do have questions? And I hope they are useful, and if not, please do ignore, and know that I am super excited about this and cannot wait to see your primer, whatever it contains. *\o/*